Dating a flake
Shit happens and you’re going to get pissed from time to time.
However how you choose to channel that anger is more important. I reminded him that we learned from the same book and asked why he didn’t take away the same advice as me.
” At 11 AM on Thursday, the day of the date, when I was at the gym and couldn’t reply, I got a, “Still on for ? In another instance, I scheduled a date for a Thursday evening. You can cancel on someone without seeing his or her reaction. But then when Thursday actually rolls around they realize it would actually be more fantastic to go home, flop on the bed and watch Carpool Karaoke videos. At the 11th hour, woman #1 (aka the flake) came through, and Dev had a dilemma: Go with woman #2 as planned even though he prefers woman #1 or cancel on woman #2. Eh, maybe I’ve been looking at this from the wrong angle. Dev, and all the dates out there who are thinking about flaking, either don’t (the optimal answer) or don’t schedule dates you don’t want to go on!Because the phenomenon of “flaking” is so common, criticizing it and judging it, no matter how well justified, is of no benefit to the “victim” of flaking.Instead, understanding it and accepting flaking as a natural, normal part of dating can be quite useful in dealing with having others flake on you in the future.), so I, as both a dating coach and a person, have a hard time with the way plans are no longer set in stone for most people but more set in quicksand… A person who has set aside some time in his or her life to meet you. I once received a cancellation three hours before a date saying, “I need to rain check for tonight.
A person who now has to find other plans or not have any plans. If you’re canceling and you still want to see the other person, then propose a new date at the time of the cancellation. I’m dealing with a work situation that will require my attention.” That’s fine.
Instead of channeling his anger for good – he would just push it on someone else and he justified it by releasing it on the person who he felt deserved it. Here’s the exact quote pointed below from David De Angelo’s Advanced Dating Techniques program.