English dating in france
So creating a profile on Tinder was a first for me.
I quickly decided that I wouldn’t include pictures of myself pointing at the Eiffel Tower, no marinière and beret, only a faithful caption in my bio that said a lot about me—“Best French-accent imitator.” Not too revealing, and mysterious enough to hide any evidence of being French, which I had a feeling would be bait for some guys trying to tick a box.
In France, sex and intimacy aren’t so easily insinuated or discussed so early on—and a woman holds a lot of the power in deciding if she’s interested in the man pursuing her.
In general, once you kiss someone, that generally is the first true sign you’re actually interested in them and marks the start of an exclusive relationship.
If it was torture for me, but my date seemed to enjoy it.
“Mmmmh, this accent…,” he said in a voice that can only be described as pervy.
In France, if you do try out a dating website or app, it’s not something you brag about to friends or share with your relatives.
In France, you don’t ask someone to be your girlfriend or boyfriend unless you’re in kindergarten.
For whatever reason, I went forward with the date with Andre. Once I got there, I started to feel really nervous, and when I’m nervous, my accent becomes even stronger.
I had to repeat what I was saying a couple of times, every time I spoke.
Don’t get me wrong—it’s not that hooking up isn’t a thing in France, but in general, once we find ourselves seeing someone multiple times, we’re both giving it our best shot to be in a relationship with commitments and sacrifices from the beginning.
It’s within this quite conservative yet forever romantic vision of love that I moved to the US in 2017 at the age of 23, leaving behind my Camembert diet and safe place to pursue my own version of the American dream.
That being said, if you’re in a big city, people aren’t afraid to stop somebody on the street or in a bar to get a number.