Hanging out as friends vs dating
We were just hovering around on the dating sidelines. It felt like such a cop-out, like he just didn’t want to hurt my feelings. “Hanging out” always makes me think of people just sitting around, not really doing anything but just killing time. He was just filling a gap between relationships and when someone better came along, we stopped “hanging out.” That was it.
He moved on so easily, leaving me feeling confused AF. This guy clearly didn’t want to commit to anything serious, but it seems so damn childish. After our times together started to fizzle out and he was always too busy to see me, he asked if we could still be friends. I couldn’t be friends with him and this surprised him.
When you say we are going on a date, the intention becomes clearer.
There’s nothing wrong with hanging out, but it certainly has a time and a place, and that’s usually not in starting up a new intimate relationship.
I wish he’d just been open with me about that instead of hiding behind the “hanging out” term. He then asked if I thought he’d led me on and I said that’s what it felt like. This guy wasn’t keen on anything serious with me and using the excuse of “hanging out” gave him the perfect exit when he didn’t want to see me anymore.
They just watch a movie and there's no physical contact except for a warm hug hello and then goodbye.Whether or not you desire to have children as a result of your next relationship, I hope that you can see the difference between these two.So often in sitcoms or movies we’ll hear characters woefully declare that they need to get a date.Usually referring to what they hope will happen afterward as a result of getting said date.
Not only that, but declaring a need to get a date is to start with a date as the end result.It meant that we were keeping things light and casual without any expectations getting in the way. One of the most disturbing things for me while this guy and I were hanging out was that he was probably hanging out with other women, and who knew if they were having sex?