Overcoming obsessions with dating
According to research conducted by psychologists Albert Wakin and Dorothy Tennov, you actually can be obsessed with your ex to the point where it becomes dangerous.
It's called "limerence."Limerence is, according to Wakin and Tennov, when someone spends a large amount of time trying to get over their ex, but, for whatever reason, are completely unable to move on.
Notably, dopamine triggers a craving in our brains, and with it, a desire to fulfill said craving.
So when we're falling in love, we feel lovesick and obsessed. With limerence, the sensation is similar, but it's so much worse.
This problem isn't recognized by a large community, but Wakin is hoping one day, limerence will actually be included in the DSM () so specific treatment plans can be made for it.
ROCD is a legitimate diagnosis and often requires treatment to alleviate the symptoms and habits associated with the condition completely. If it is all based on appearance or frivolous things, you'll know ROCD is rearing its head. If there is something in your relationship that isn't working, your partner may be able to help bring some clarity.
Just as OCD can be treated and managed, so can ROCD. When you feel doubts creeping up about your partner or your relationship, take a few moments to sit down and truly think. Although it may seem strange, ROCD is not uncommon.
”Wakin and Tennov wanted to know: Why do some people get over breakups relatively easily, while others dwell on their exes for months (or even In a regular relationship, passionate love calms down and turns into companionate love anywhere between four to six months after the relationship takes off.
In limerent relationships, though, the need for the other person only becomes stronger with time, even when a breakup happens.
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