Start dating again
At Relate, we commonly see single people for one-to-one counselling.Our counsellors can talk to you about your relationship history and help you think about any issues you’re finding it hard to deal with – things left over from the past and your fears for the future.Perhaps you’re dating again after the end of relationship or you have feelings left over from a previous relationship that you’re still trying to move on from.For instance, if things didn’t end well last time, you may not be sure if you’re ready to trust someone new.The first thing to say is: don’t put too much pressure on yourself. Sometimes it’s better to take things one step at a time.You might like to start by simply trying to be more social.Being able to explain feelings and get different perspectives can be a really useful way of beginning to understand why you have these feelings.
Relationships can leave deep wounds – sometimes deeper than we realise.
It can be scary getting back into dating after a long break.
Perhaps you’ve been in a relationship or married for years, but have now found yourself single again.
Being able to acknowledge and accept our part in both the making and the breaking of the relationship can help us to understand what we’re good at in relationships - and what we perhaps find difficult.
Of course it doesn’t have to be a clear case of ‘fault’ for a relationship to end.Sometimes, changes in circumstances – or changes in people – can be enough for something that worked previously to stop working a few years down the line.